The Forty Series #2: Intimacy in My Relationships

This year is a milestone birthday for me.  I thought it would be cool to create a list of things that I know for sure about myself.  Read the first entry here.

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I love love. Falling in love, being in love, maintaining love, watching other people fall in love, hearing and seeing love in action.  I love all of that.

TO ME, love is an action word.  Love actions are often intimate, thoughtful things.  Those things that nobody catches but you. I crave that.  Being held, being kissed, being thought of, being taken care of…I need that.

Typically E is gone to work before we get up. He always kisses me and whispers that he loves me before he leaves.  He will also brew coffee for me and places my ‘Good Morning Gorgeous’ mug next to the pot.  He will often leave a note for B encouraging her to have a good day and to remind her that she is loved. TO ME that is intimate and thoughtful and makes me smile all day! 

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I also need intimacy in my friendships.  The friends (not associates or acquaintances) that I have I feel absolutely confident that there is nothing I can share with them that would make them not be my friend.  My dreams and disappointments, my fears and failures, they all know them and love me and encourage me anyway.  I can cry to them and not be ashamed or embarrassed or laughed at or left to felt ‘any kind of way’.

I also give as good as I get.  My stance is you will have plenty of people being ugly to you, discouraging you, making you feel like sh!t; I’m just not going to be one of those people. If you want to climb Mt Everest nobody is going to cheer for you as loud as me or encourage you as often as me.  I need to be able to listen to people and encourage them on their journey. I realize that sometimes that is all people need is someone to listen to!

What I know for sure about me is that I need intimacy in my relationships.

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